Marriage Musts #12 - Never Say Never

NEVER say never, or always, when fighting (arguing or discussing). For example. . ."you never" or "you always". These are not true statements and all they do is put the other person on the defensive. This kind of goes along with the validation post I made a few days ago. Accusatory tones cause walls of defensiveness and the spirit of offense to enter the relationship. Once someone becomes defensive, then they move to attack back. It is a vicious cycle.