Marriage Musts #4 - COmmunication

I think many times couples think that communication means talking at each other. True communication also includes listening and sometimes stopping the mental conversations that go on in our minds. When "comments" or "arguments" start to form in your head, try to stop yourself from feeding those thoughts or acting out on them. Sometimes these thoughts will ...lead to private mental "conversations" with yourself which will "work" you up into a frenzy and if fed will turn into offense. Remember not to attack the one you love based on these private "conversations" Remember that your spouse is not privy to what goes on in your mind. Offense is the bait in the trap and if you give in, you will be the one in bondage to it.